"Ugh, that's the story of my life!" I was eating lunch at an Indian Restaurant with my husband and our son, when I heard the lady sitting in the table next to ours call out that sentence. She was in her 50s, had short white hair, was portly, and her face was red with strong emotion. I didn't hear what she had said prior to that, and since her conversation with her two sons ended with that sentence, I was left to guess what the story of her life was.
At first, I tried to make up the story of her life. I find people's lives to be fascinating, and it's not for nothing that I became a Hypnotherapist who listens to people and guides them through their subconscious every day.
Then I remembered that her "story" wasn't real. Just like my story isn't real, and neither is yours!
We can all choose to consciously separate "what is" from the story about "what is". Your Story is nothing more than the combinations of your interpretations, your beliefs, and your resulting emotions around the experiences of your life. You can remain the objective witnesses and not get triggered by people and situation that reinforce your story.
For example, Fred calls Stella and cancels their dinner. He tells her he is not feeling well, which is the truth.
Stella's emotional wounds are triggered, and her negative self-talk begins. "He doesn't want to see me. He's bored with me, or maybe he's seeing someone else behind my back. Bob cheated on me, and now Fred is cheating on me too. My own father favored my sister over me. I never get the attention I want. I'm a loser. Nobody will ever love me". This is a strong example, but our wounds get triggered in small and in big ways on a regular basis.
We get caught up in our stories. We are always the victim. We are always taken advantage of. We are too nice so we come in last. We have bad luck in relationships. And so on and so forth.
A belief is just a thought that you keep thinking. Beliefs are easy to change, as long as you address them at their source- in the subconscious. Our actions stem from our beliefs, and our behaviors are the accumulation of our actions. Change your beliefs and your life will transform completely!
Choose to not identify with your story. You are not your past. You are eternal (although not in this physical form). You are not your profession/ race/ gender/ socio-economical status, etc. Your Soul is so much more than your earthly characteristics.
So choose to drop the story! And if you must tell yourself and others a story about you, script ourself a wonderful story! Tell it like you want it to be, as your words are powerful and are creating reality. For example, if you are having financial problems, you can say "I am working on attracting more abundance into my life by creating a mindset for success". And mean it! Your subconscious mind knows when you are lying to yourself, and it will jump out and say "yea right!" if you don't believe what you are saying. So make statements you fell no resistance about! Instead of saying to yourself "I have a wonderful relationship" whenever you feel that your relationship is having problems, say instead "I am focusing on the positive aspects of my relationship and am attracting more and more positive manifestations of these aspects".
You are attracting to yourself manifestations of your thoughts, so make sure to have thoughts you want to manifest! Script yourself a positive story. Literally write down the story of your life the way you want it to be. If it feels too different than your current life, pretend it's a year later and you are writing the story of all that has happened in your life in the past year. Make it your best year yet!
You are the creator of your own reality, so make it a wonderful one!
Many blessings from me to you,
Transformational Leader, Hypnotherapist,