My adorable four and a half year old boy started preschool last week. He attended a little pre-school before the pandemic- but only two mornings a week, so this full-day, every-weekday preschool is a new experience for him- and for me.
I keep reminding myself of the teachings of several of my guides- "children have their own internal guidance". I know that my son made a pre-life plan of what he wants to experience here in his life- that he chose his time of birth, his family, his physical body, and his mental faculties. My Hypnosis clients are reminded of this plan during our sessions, and I myself remember very vividly my own womb-regression experience.
I look at my little boy, and even though he feels like an extension of myself, my little creation- I know that he has an inner being that is guiding him on his path- and that I can't, and shouldn't- try to replace that guidance. I should only complement it. He was conceived in my womb and I nourished him- but I didn't actually "create him". He always WAS, and now he decided to incarnate once again here on earth. I chose to be his mom, and he chose to be my son. Lucky us ;0)
Knowing what I know doesn't mean I'm not at times a "helicopter mom". After all- I"m human and I certainly have my shortcomings. So what I try to do is simply to remain conscious of reality- who my son is and who I am- and what our roles are in each other's lives. My clients who are parents often face similar issues. They try to influence their children's lives and steer them in their desired direction. It is often necessary for the PARENTS to do their inner work- so that they learn the difference between appropriate parental guidance- and inappropriate intervention and control. Many people didn't have an example of healthy parenting and a healthy family dynamic- so it is natural that they need to learn a new way of relating to their kids. And for those of you reading who want to heal their own wounds and become better parents- Hypnosis is here to help guide you to a healthy family dynamic!
Wishing you all a wonderful school year,
The summer is wrapping up once more. For many of you this means that the "school year" routine is beginning.
But- What if? What if you could spend more time with your family all year? What if you could go on a prolonged adventure, and not just a short annual vacation? What if there are ways in which your life could be a lot more interesting and fulfilling?
Those who know me know that I LOVE traveling, and also that my parenting style is attachment parenting. This means that I had to be creative when it came to work, so that I can work from anywhere, and work a very reasonable number of hours a week. The biggest key to creating that life-style, was believing that it was possible. I have clients who resign to spending many hours away from home and their families- often unnecessarily so. One client of mine was afraid to stand up to her boss and request to continue to work remotely after getting vaccinated- so that she could spend two more hours a day with her kids- instead of commuting. For most of us the biggest issue standing in the way of a better life, is our MIND-SET! As individuals we need to stop accepting such extreme sacrifices and work-conditions, and begin to believe-in and create a balanced life. As a society we need to re-think our priorities and question the way of life that some of our governments are telling us is "normal".
During the pandemic I started following a few YouTube channels of families traveling with their kids, homeschooling them, and working digitally. I found them so inspiring! Here are people who gave up the illusion of safety, who asked themselves "what kind of life is right for my family?"- instead of just copying the Joneses. Here are people who get to spend most of their time with their kids- enjoying the precious years we have before our little ones leave the nest. One family ("World Towning") spent two and a half years driving an RV to every country in Europe with their two kids. Another family (forgot the channel's name) were traveling around the US, living in a camper- as a family of 9!!! I, of course, am waiting until my youngest one is old enough to enjoy traveling (and for the pandemic to be over) so we can go on our first long adventure. The excitement I am already feeling over it is my indication that I will make it happen. No fear. No doubt. Just excitement and gratitude for what's to come ;0)
I couldn't have even dreamed about this life before I discovered Hypnosis. I was stuck. I was working in a scientific research lab, so my dreams of a life of travel seemed impossible. I was afraid of making a huge change, of taking big risks. I was also afraid of what people would think- and say. Luckily, I no longer give a hoot about what anyone thinks of my life choices. I now see opportunities everywhere. I come up with creative solutions and ways of getting what I want without making big sacrifices. I "work" hard- but it never feels like work. I am productive, because I no longer waste mental and physical energy in worrying. I take "aligned action"- so things tend to work out for me. And now I enjoy helping other people create their dream lives. What else can I ask for? Life is good.
Wishing you a life that is satisfying and that exceeds your wildest dreams,
I remember watching a TED Talk in which the speaker asked the audience "who here wants to win the lottery?" Everyone raised their hand. Then she asked "who here plays the lottery?" Only a small percentage of people raised their hand. Laughter in the audience.
Why would you want something yet DO NOTHING ABOUT GETTING IT? Odds. Statistics. Probabilities.
The problem is that most people only go after what they think they can have, and not after what they want. How is this true in YOUR LIFE? What do you have a limiting belief about?
If you seek inspiration you can find many, many people who will tell you how the odds were against them, yet they won. Focus your attention on them, and not on the people trying to tell you to "face reality". Whatever "reality" you see is simply a result of old vibrations that have manifested. At any moment you can reach a higher vibration by shifting your attention to the positive, and you can start manifesting a better and better "reality".
If you never play you are guaranteed to never win! Don't stay on the bleachers. Whatever the game you want to win is- PLAY!
Today is Father's day in the US. Fatherhood sure is changing- and not a minute too soon. I keep noticing how much my children benefit from spending time with their dad, and what a sense of safety that bond instills in them. Those of you who know me, know that I"m a proponent of adopting in the US a mentality similar to that of many European countries- creating a society that prioritizes family time over excessive work-time, and that emphasizes a balance between work and play.
It doesn't seem reasonable to me that when a man's child is born, that man is expected to go right back to work and leave the child-rearing to the mother. Well, at least for the few weeks of maternity leave she has until she needs to pass on the child-rearing to the daycare workers.
My husband is a hands-on dad. He might change our little girl's diapers wearing a face-mask because the smells get to him, and he sometimes assumes I brushed our son's teeth, so he doesn't brush them- but all in all he is a hands-on dad.
My mom always smiles when she is holding our baby girl and my husband passes by and the baby tries to leap out of her hands and into her daddy's hands. "You reap what you sow", she says. And she's right! He spends quality time with her every single day- playing with her, making her dance, teaching her how to drum. Yet he also finds time each day to spend quality time with our son- riding a bike with him, playing soccer, building magnetile machines. And with our son he also reaps what he sows.
It's all about our belief-systems and our patterns. If we believe that family time is a supreme value, we will manifest it in our own lives, and in society at large. We don't have to keep drinking the kool aid and buying into a system that keeps us working non-stop just to survive. We deserve to thrive, and our little ones deserve a mom and a dad that are present in their lives. Most of my female clients are working on issues around female empowerment, but many of my male clients are not even aware of the fact that their lives could be so much more satisfying if they developed their paternal aspects more.
So today we celebrate fatherhood and the wonderful contribution that positive masculine role-models make!
As someone who has traveled a lot and has lived in different places, I believe I have a pretty broad view of how a country's customs can influence its peoples' levels of Happiness. For example, someone has shared an article today in one of the "moms groups" I am in, about how the birth-rate is declining in the US, because the customs and laws here are non-conducive to having children. The article stated that a lot of people who actually want children, are not having them because they can not practically do so. And as you might have guessed, these people are quite unhappy about this- as they should be.
I totally get it. I remember when I was pregnant with my first child, and my at-that-time work-place "offered" me a three-month maternity leave, even though they didn't legally have to (at that time). I couldn't imagine leaving a 3-month old baby for 8 hours every day, and when I said that to my then-boss, she replied that she came back to work 5 weeks after her c-section. She was proud of it! And I get that too. In the US we are brain-washed that work is a supreme value of some sort. This capitalistic society tries to train our minds to believe that money, belongings, and status will make us happy. Oh, and that being employed is the most probable way to get those things. It also tries to train you to believe that it is acceptable for a government to not take care of its people. That it's normal to not have health care, affordable education, living wages, and childcare. In Europe they know that play is as important as work, and they have a shorter work-day, work-week, and many, MANY more vacation days. And of course, countries with a high happiness index recognize the importance of ample family time, and especially maternity/ paternity leaves.
What makes me happy? Lots of things. But nothing makes me happier than spending time with my family, and feeling that I am TRULY raising my children. I read a few years ago an article stating that the birth-rate in Denmark (or was is Sweden?) was declining due to young people deciding to be free of responsibilities. The government then launched a campaign of "have kids, make grandma happy". Once again, I totally got it. I can't explain the joy that fills my heart when I watch my mom hug my children and blissfully smile. I never felt that way in a job.
The pandemic has helped a lot of people get their priorities straight. For some, it was the first time they actually spent large stretches of time with their children. For others, they realized they truly needed to rest, and that they have been over-working themselves to the point of mental and physical exhaustion. So if your priorities are making you miserable, ask yourself- what needs to change? Does your inner-being disagree with your ego and wants you to work less (or change jobs) and play more? If so, how can you re-program your mind to get rid of unhelpful beliefs and feelings- such as guilt and fear? How can you start believing that you can have it all, and that you deserve it all? Well, by now you know my answer- Hypnosis! Oh yes, I mentioned this was a national problem- so how can it be solved? Well, first of all, YOU are the creator of YOUR reality, so what's going on with others doesn't have to affect you. Second, if more people shift their priorities, become vocal about what isn't right, and set an example of happiness- others will soon follow!
So be happy and be the change!
I"m such a "To Do" list person. Blame it on my Astrological chart, but I must say- it works for me, so I"m not complaining! This doesn't mean that I'm overly busy or that I can't relax. In fact, the reason why I"m serious about my list, is because I'm serious about my goals. And I"m serious about my goals mostly because I'm serious about having the time and money-freedom to travel, vacation, spend plenty of time with my family, and just...well- relax!
Several of my clients have come to me over the years with the same complaint. They work hard, are always busy, make sacrifices, and still don't reach their goals. Why is that? We all have the same 24 hours in a day, yet some of us are very directed and productive, and others tend to get overwhelmed and to flail. In my experience, it's not so much about the time and effort, but it's more about the inspiration and the mindset.
Take Pat as an example. He comes from hard-working parents, and he has the idea that you have to work hard to make a living ingrained in his mind. So he works hard...and he makes a living. Then there's Samuel. Samuel comes from a wealthy family and has the expectation that money comes easily. He is always coming up with business ideas and finding the right partners to collaborate with. Pat and Samuel are both bright, educated, and competent people. The main difference between them is their mindset and therefore- their expectation of what their lives should be like. And of course- expectation creates reality.
If you're not sure what your expectation is, all you have to do is look at the life you manifested. Do you want to manifest something different? Then start expecting something different. If you find yourself stuck with the same negative expectations- well- there's always Hypnosis for changing that ;0)
Be well and expect greatness,
It's not a coincidence that the day chosen to celebrate Happiness is the Spring Equinox. Spring symbolizes the increase of light, the rebirth of the earth, hope, abundance, and so much more. The Spring Equinox is the Astrological new year, and today the Sun enters the constellation of Aries- the sign of being a pioneer and having passion and courage.
"A happy life is just a spring of happy moments. But most people don't allow the happy moment, because they are so busy trying to get the happy life". This is a quote by Abraham-Hicks that I read and thought about all the people I know who are always chasing something/ someone that in their minds holds the key to their happiness. For some people it is money. For others it is a romantic partner- in general or someone specific. And for others it is inner peace and healing their emotional wounds.
It is not often that I encounter people who are truly happy, but when I do, they all have a few traits in common. First of all, they have a positive attitude and are grateful for what they have, regardless of "how much" they have. Second, they don't compare themselves to others. Third, they have learned, often the hard way, what the important things in life are. And lastly, they made peace with their past and with their life circumstances which they can not change.
If I had to summarize what they are like, I would say that their ego doesn't dominate them. Because their minds aren't busy making up stories, they can live in the present moment, which is where Joy is found. They are aligned. Things work out for them. They have great energy, so positive people gravitate towards them. They have great energy, so negative people are pushed away from them. They often have a spiritual outlook on life which makes them feel safe and excited to be alive.
So if you would like to experience more happy moments- you know what to do. It's just a matter of finding the right tools ;0)
Here's to you creating a happier and happier life for yourself!
Today is Valentine's day. In Latin American this day is called "Day of Love and Friendship". I love this definition. There are many important people in our lives, and this is something worth appreciating and celebrating.
Many people feel down on this specific day, as well as on Holidays and special occasions, if they don't have a romantic partner to celebrate with it. My advice would be to focus on ALL the people that you care about and who care about you. Take a few minutes to make a mental list of all these people! In fact, take a piece of paper and make an ACTUAL LIST of all the people who make your life better! Include even people who said a nice word to you when you were feeling down. The same way little kids prepare Valentine cards for everyone in their class, we too could benefit from a greater feeling of connectivity to those around us. Connectivity to a community is the number one factor that people chose as most contributing to their happiness. Yet we spend so much time worrying about work, about money, about "what will people think about us" , and not enough time actually fostering connection.
Now, let's say it is Valentine's day, or Christmas, or your birthday, and you are feeling a little down since you would truly like a romantic partner, but you don't have one. Or, you do have one but the relationship is not in a good place. Let this feeling be your motivation to take the steps necessary to improve your situation and to go after what you want, so that next Valentine's day/ Christmas/ birthday- you will be in a better situation and will look back at today as the jumping board that brought you to your brighter future!
Here's to a wonderful tomorrow!
Following that string of though, failure is not making Alignment a priority and letting fear stop you from following your passions. Many clients find me once they are ready to confront their fears. Fear of failure, fear of not deserving what they wanted, fear of "what will people say", and fear of letting go of the familiar- even if the familiar is unpleasant.
Don't let your fear stop you! Tracy Dyer listened to her father and opened her own hand-bag company, which became highly successful and brought her great satisfaction and abundance.
Just imagine what might be waiting for you on the other side of your fear!
Always rooting for you,
It's that time of the year again. Time to end one year and set our intentions for another. In Ecuador they have a lovely tradition of making effigy dolls to represent all the negative of the year that's ending and burning it at midnight. Bringing awareness to what you want to cleanse, and then cleansing through burning, helps in symbolically and energetically ending a cycle and starting a new one.
Cycles begin and end all the time, so you don't have to wait for the new year. A new moon, a birthday, or any day in which something shifts in you- are all good occasions to declare a new beginning. In every given moment you can choose to shift.
But let's say you have the habit of making new year resolutions. Who can blame you? The tendency to want more and more out of life is only natural. There is a misconception that you should be "happy with what you have". According to Abraham-Hicks, gratitude and feeling joy are the keys to a blessed existence, but at the same time- "launching rockets of desire" is part of the reason we are here on earth. In the un-manifested/ Spirit world, we manifest our desires instantaneously. Just ask anyone who has experienced Hypnosis! When I give an indication such as "You will now receive a gift from your guide", poof!- a gift appears. It is in this physical world of slower vibration that we get to have experiences that lead to manifesting our desires. Part of the joy is seeing it all come into fruition.
You want what you want- here and now. You want to move into your dream house right this second. You want the perfect partner...yesterday. You want to wake up tomorrow fit and lighter. Understandable! The desire nature of the mind is strong. But it's important to remember that your Soul came to earth to have experiences, not to immediately get everything you want. It's how you grow. It's how you appreciate what you have. It's how you learn who you are and what really matters in life.
So when you make your new year resolutions- dream big. Imagine your best life and best self- and set your intentions accordingly. But also set a goal to experience life to the fullest- ups and downs, trials and errors, different emotions of the emotional spectrum. Set the intention of being more present every day and not just living for a better future. Of appreciating what is and not getting too lost in what can be. And even when you do focus on what you want which you do not have yet- try to harness the feeling of excited anticipation for it, not sadness or anxiety over "when is it going to happen", because feeling like you already have that which you desire is the best way of making it a reality.
Remember that your Soul made a general plan for this life, and this plan serves your highest good. So don't try fighting or over-writing the plan, instead, try discovering more about it and how you can best execute it. Make aligning to your highest-self a resolution! Every day, declare that you are prioritizing alignment and feeling good. Choose positive thoughts. Choose to let go of that which does not serve you. Explore different modalities that will help you in your journey. Offer yourself (and others) love, understanding, and compassion.
Wishing you a wonderful 2021!
Transformational Leader, Hypnotherapist,